Dreamer aries

 Being a mom is the most beautiful experience. There is no more joy in this world than seeing your baby. But after the beautiful part comes the part where we are judged for our postpartum bodies,especially the belly. So here I am sharing my story of how I overcame those who shamed me for my postpartum body. In the monthly visit to the doctor, I had to put on weight at least 2 3 kilos every month. So by the time I get ready for delivery I have gained around 12 kilos. And after delivery we have this resting stage for 40 days where we are supposed to only eat and lie in bed. That's the worst part for me. So again I gained around 5 kilos more. So from 55 kilos to around 72 kilos. Then all of a sudden after 40 days of eating and my belly tied tightly with a belt to flatten the belly as they say, some aunt or relative might visit and to just say touching your belly,'you haven't lost your pooch. 😏or you have a pooch' Like how the hell will the belly go in 40...

Everybody tells us to be positive or stay positive. Is it the correct way to succeed in life? Because life isn't all bout positivity and life throws us into a lot of negativity. How to deal with negativity (my way): Over the years I have used a trick . Maybe some of you already do it. Whenever I am faced with a situation which has an outcome I am not that sure of, I always think of the worst outcome first. I digest that thought. Then I think of how I will react to it and slowly I also come up with a solution. How it works: It's simple. Now I am mentally fully prepared for the worst case scenario and I go tackle it with also a lot of hope. So whatever the outcome is I am not afraid of it. I am mentally, emotionally and physically ready. Why it's helpful: Because in life we have to face a lot of negativity in the form of negative people, negative partners, negative comments, hate comments, and the list never ends. Even if you are proposing someone you a...

L ove and accept yourself fully.  Believe in yourself Life is too short so don't waste time hating anyone You don't have to to win every argument. Agree to disagree Make peace with your past so it doesn't mess up your present and future Don't compare your life to others. You don't know what he'll they are going through When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer No one is in charge of your happiness, except you What other people think of you is none of your business Time heals everything. Give time, time! Envy is a waste of time and energy. You already have all you need If you don't ask, you don't get Don't judge people by their relatives😀 Everyone you love is going to die. It's a horrible truth Sleep is the best meditation and stress reliever Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from our own actions Stop and admire the little things in your life             

   When I moved to a new school after coming back from Saudi, I had this new friend in class. She was so lively, jolly and always laughing, singing and cracking jokes. I used to think how happy she is. But all that changed when one day when I knew her veryclose. Her parents were divorced and she was suffering alot. I was shocked. How could she make us all smile when she is so sad. We tend to judge people by their outer appearance or outer behavior. When actually they are the complete opposite of it. Some people laugh while carrying a burden in their hearts. Some might cry in our grief but actually they are enjoying themselves seeing us in distress. Just because someone failed doesn't mean they are a loser. It could be their motivation to succeed in life . Whereas a person who has won all his life will turn out to be a loser because he sees nothing after his victory. A living person can be dead to others because he is of no use to others or even himself and some live e...

   First take a moment to look around you. Have you ever thought what would happen if the things in our nature started to compare itself with others like the sun to the moon. A rose flower with a sunflower.  Everything in nature created by God has it's own unique identity. It has a unique role which another can't do. What the sun can do the moon can't and vice versa. But both are equally important. So why do we compare ourselves to others. Why do we want to be like them. Why do we need the things they have.???  Just think we are all created by the one God. Why do you think you are less important? Just because you are not good looking, or fat or ugly or poor or unhealthy. Whatever it is.  The only way to be happy is to be happy with yourself. Be content and satisfied with who you are and what you have. You don't know, there are people wishing your life. So stop comparing yourself to people in social media. You don't know what hard times th...

I am writing this after the recent floods in Kerala. The thoughts that I went through and which many of us went through even though we were not harmed but we did see a lot of people's home destroyed and all belongings lost. Firstly, who can we blame for the destruction caused by natural calamities. The natural calamities are trying to tell us something. We have to listen to it. A natural calamity comes unexpected but we humans are the ones who invited it. When it comes it destroys everything in it's path without mercy. It turns the rich to poor and the strongest to weak. People who lived in palaces had to live in relief camps. All those valuable possessions we had, we left it all to save our lives. The first lesson it teaches us is that our being alive is the most valuable thing. You learn each human life's importance. A calamity teaches us to change. Change our thoughts of other people based on differences Change our hearts from hate to love Change our way of t...

If you are a lazy mom like me but your kids need a snack for tea, then this I the snack for you. Quick and easy with only 3 ingredients Ingredients: Ripe bananas Sugar Ghee How to make: Peel and cut the bananas Heat a nonstick pan and pour a tsp ghee Put the bananas into the pan and shallow fry till light golden brown color Sprinkle sugar on top while hot Serve after cool down Your kids will love it. It's tasty and healthy 😊

Planning our life Have you ever had the feeling at the end of the day, that you didn't get much done or you did too much work, that you are too tired to do things that you enjoy like reading, working out or watching ur favorite show. If the answer is no, then it's high time you started planning and organizing your life.            How do you do it? It's simple. All you need is an empty book and a pen or pencil (nothing fancy is necessary). And start writing all the things you need to get done. It could be planning for the next day or planning for the whole week. Write down your daily routine Plan your meals ahead Divide your chores like cleaning, laundry and ironing for specific days Do declutter of one room per day Write important events like a wedding or a meeting or doctors appointments. And I also suggest to get a diary or a notebook where you can dump your thoughts, emotions, feelings and maybe a gratitude journal where you can w...

Hmm, am I a selfish mom? Is it ok to be one?   Let me tell you first by what I mean by a selfish' mom. It means to love and care for yourself or you can say self care and self love.    Now, why do mom's need it? Because if a mom doesn't take care of herself in the long run she will end up being taken care of and that wouldn't be too good. We mom's want to be there healthy for our family. So ladies you need to put in a little effort to take care of yourself.    Believe me, you will love it and feel more energetic.    So what do you do for self care. It's simple. It could be anything from your favorite hobbies to working out to pampering yourself to meditation. The options are endless, but you have to make time for it. Don't lose yourselves while being there for your family. Once in a while love your body,mind and soul.    So yesterday I took some time to improve my photography skills and for that I went outside into nature. Here are s...

 Have you ever noticed that parents who were strict with their eldest child, become so lenient with their younger children?? Ok, so I have noticed because in my case I was the eldest.😏And now when I see my parents being so tolerant to my younger siblings I am like, mom aren't u going to scold them. She is so cool with it now. 😥Back then I was so afraid to speak against my parents, a 'No' was a 'No'!! We couldn't question. But my younger ones they won't stop at a 'No.    Now I have 3 kids and I am continuing the same. Strict with my eldest and my youngest gets away with everything😅.      So what I think happens is that we as parents are immature when we have our first child and their tantrums irritate an make us angry. But by the time our youngest arrives we r more matured parents and we become immune to tantrums.       Hmm, all I can say is if you were born the eldest, 😪I feel u. And if u were the youngest, lucky u😛. So if u ...

  Last year we went on a trip to Idukki. A beautiful place in Kerala. Yes, the exact place where the dam was opened and Kerala was flooded due to non stop rain.    The place as you can see is breathtaking. I don't know how long we stood there mesmerized by the beauty and greenery of the place.     Words cannot describe the beauty and the emotions we go through at that place😍 But what turned out to be a beautiful day ended with our car breaking down. And because it was the festive season of Onam none of the workshops were open. But even that didn't hamper our excitement because the greenery and lakes around us made our hearts content. We returned in one of his friends car who was also with us. My hubby had to stay in Idukki till his car got fixed. So the experience of nature had a good effect on our spirits. Nature